Life Purpose: Why Am I Disconnected From My Intentions?

I knew a woman who didn’t know what she wanted to eat.  Her husband would ask her, “Do you want Chinese or Mexican food for dinner?  Do you want fast food?  Do you feel like cooking?”

She would study his face with each word, listen to his inflections, trying to guess what he wanted her to say.  “Do you want Chinese?” she’d ask him.  “Whatever you want is fine with me.”

Eventually, her husband stopped making suggestions.  “Just tell me what you’re in the mood for,” he’d say.  “Tonight we’ll have what you want.”

If she picked a place, then suspected he wasn’t thrilled with her choice, she would backtrack.  If he insisted, she wasn’t able to enjoy her meal.

“Why can’t you tell him what you want?” I asked her.

She laughed nervously.  “Because I don’t know!  I honestly don’t.  Sometimes I know what I like when I’m eating it, or at least, I know when I don’t like it.  But it’s like I’m so busy trying to figure out he wants that I can’t get to my own tastes.”

Are you chuckling . . . or sympathizing?  As I mentioned in my last blog, too many women were taught as  little girls to please people, to the degree that they lose their own sense of self.   Remember the movie, Runaway Bride with Julia Roberts and Richard Gere?  The whole premise of the movie was that Maggie Carpenter had been so busy being a chameleon – changing constantly with her surroundings – that she had no sense of her own tastes or life purpose.

If  this is you, here are some concrete helps:

• What is important to me?  What would I give up to save?  I know a friend who is born to write.  It had taken her many years to discover that drive, and even more to honor it.  Then, the day her granddaughter got sick, she walked out on a writing deadline to go to her.  After many years of being disconnected, she was in tune with her core self and intentions.
• What touches you deeply?  When you have emotion, instead of fleeing it, feel it.  Even negative emotions have a positive job – they are a thermostat and a red flag.
• Pull out your high-level energy toolbox – meditation, affirmations, journaling, and, of course, energy coaching from a certain trusted mentor!  Your life purpose is inside you – just create a safe, meditative environment for yourself and seek it out.
• As you begin to draw closer to your life purpose, you may want to use bracelets or other jewelry as symbols of your quest for self and your intentions.  Don’t infuse them with power – the power is within you.  They are reminders of that fact.

Sift through the “don’t wants.”  If you have years or decades of staying disconnected, you may have a well-engrained habit of believing that you want what others want for you.  Take the time to tune to your feelings and you may be surprised at what you discover.  As I coached the woman above, she was shocked to discover that she didn’t even like Chinese food!  She’d been eating it to accommodate other people for so many years that she literally had no idea.

If you’re disconnected from your life purpose, it will take some time to reconnect.  I can help you get through this process, freeing your intentions and helping to reach success beyond what you thought possible.

What is your life purpose?  If you’re disconnected, it will take some time to reconnect.  I can help you in the EnergyRICH® Bootcamp.   Learn how to free the power of your intentions and savor the kind of success you thought was only for other people.